Dementia Time-Shifting: When the Past Becomes the Present
Dementia time-shifting can feel confusing, but it’s a chance to understand a loved one’s world and create meaningful moments together.
The way a person with dementia experiences the world is not always grounded in our current reality. One of the more heart-wrenching yet powerful experiences you may encounter is a phenomenon called dementia time-shifting. This isn’t just failing to remember what day it is; it’s a total immersion in a different period of their life. For example, you might be sitting together at the dining room table, and abruptly, your older loved one believes they are a young adult waiting for their parents to come home. It’s confusing for them and may be equally baffling for you. But understanding time-shifting can help make those moments more manageable—and even meaningful.
What Is Dementia Time-Shifting?
Time-shifting occurs when someone with dementia perceives themselves as living in a different moment from their past. Beyond reminiscing, it’s a profound, genuine belief that they’re currently in that particular period of time. For them, the present moment fades, substituted by intense memories that feel as real as today. They may call out for individuals who passed away years ago or speak about events that took place decades earlier as if they were happening now.
The Best Ways to Cope With Time-Shifting
When time-shifting happens, it’s normal to want to correct the person’s perception, to gently remind them that they’re here, with you, in the present. However, we know that this method often results in confusion, frustration, or even distress. As an alternative, try stepping into their reality. Validate their feelings, understand what they are expressing, and respond with empathy. If they’re anxious about an appointment with their parents, for instance, you might say, “It sounds like you really care about being on time. They must have meant a lot to you.” This reaction can provide comfort without the jarring reminder that their parents aren’t around anymore.
Creating Connection Through Their World
Time-shifting may be a chance to create moments of connection with the individual you love. Make inquiries about the time they are absorbed in, such as, “What is something you’re excited to do when your parents get home?” Questions like this can inspire storytelling that engages them while giving you a richer comprehension of their past. You may hear stories you’ve never heard before or learn things that bring you closer.
Taking Care of Yourself
It is essential to recognize that time-shifting could be emotionally exhausting. Seeing a loved one drift into another time and place can leave you feeling lost. Ensure that you have support, whether from friends, family, or professional resources. Joining a caregiver support group can also provide you with worthwhile tips and camaraderie from other individuals who know what you’re going through. Remember, you do not have to do this alone.
Our Dementia Caregivers Can Help
Though we understand how hard it may be, time-shifting moments offer a window into the life experiences that have shaped the person you love. And we are here to assist you every step of the way in taking care of a person you love with dementia. Our professional caregivers are fully trained and experienced in the unique nuances of dementia and are available to assist in Fort Lauderdale, Parkland, Weston, and throughout Broward County. Reach out to us at 954-486-6440 for a complimentary in-home meeting to find out more.
